Violence comes in many forms.
Historically violence has been specifically associated with physical injury more commonly named as assault and and physical abuse or violence.
Violence is a controlling behaviour that presents under many guises, one of which is emotional intimidation and bullying.
Emotional violence, although sometimes difficult to pinpoint and articulate, is and always has been more prevalent and more harmful than physical violence.
It is the psychological affects of the physical violence that remain long after wounds have healed in the form of behavioural changes, trauma and sometimes physical health issues.
Emotional violence has existed throughout the ages and can most easily be identified through the history of religion, culture and inequality between the sexes.
In more recent years we have seen awareness around school yard bullying increase and has been recognised and labelled as violence.
Refusing to listen to or to deny another person’s feelings, telling people what they do or do not feel and ridiculing or shaming another persons feelings is Emotional Violence, a controlling behaviour which occurs when one person believes they have a right to control or dominate another person.
Emotional Violence is real but the effects of its injury can make us question ourselves as confidence diminishes.
Symptoms of Emotional Violence (symptoms can range depending on the resilience of the individual, the environment, the duration of violence occurring and the severity of violence):
- lack in confidence
- questioning oneself
- lack of enthusiasm and passion
- feeling tired
- feeling scared
- biting nails
- going inward
- avoidance of situations and people
- regression in school grades
- feeling irritable
- biting your tongue or turning the cheek to comments
- lack of self esteem
- changes in dress and presentation
- changes in eating behaviours
- feeling sick
- emotional outbursts
Emotional Violence occurs:
- between individuals
- in spousal relationships
- between ex partners
- in families
- in cultures
- at the workplace
- in schools
Education to expand awareness around emotions, to recognise occurrences of Emotional Violence and its harmful effects is paramount if we are to:
- eliminate harrassment and intimidation
- empower individuals
- increase self esteem
- reduce physical violence
- combat teen suicide and self harm
- battle depression
- create respectful relationships
- increase tolerance
- increase emotional resilience
Emotional understanding is the key for creating pathways to:
- optimum physical and mental health
- understanding past life choices
- making future empowering decisions
- creating quality relationships
- negotiation and mediation
- understanding behaviours minor as well as extreme
- extinguishing family legal battles
- providing comprehensive and more accurate assessment of situations
- determining a course of action
Acknowledging emotional violence is the start to regaining personal power and opening minds to be able to educate on its effects and thereby treat the cause and eliminate symptoms.
Lots of Love